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by Sam Vaknin
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Watch SECRET Reason Narcissist Devalues, Discards YOU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hi3PjMeV1xw Separation-individuation from external – now persecutory - object, but not from “snapshot” (internal object-introject) which is still idealized as a mother figure and with which the narcissist is still enmeshed in a shared fantasy. Narcissism is a missionary religion, replete with a deity (false self), OCD rituals, and addiction. The shared fantasy is populated with idealized images, the...
Topics: snapshot, defenses, disability, object, internal, external, narcissism, narcissistic personality...
by Sam Vaknin
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When a patient has a personality disorder and an eating disorder, the therapist would do well to first tackle the eating disorder. Personality disorders are intricate and intractable. They are rarely curable (though certain aspects, like obsessive-compulsive behaviours, or depression can be ameliorated with medication or modified). The treatment of personality disorders requires enormous, persistent and continuous investment of resources of every kind by everyone involved. From the patient's...
Topics: narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths,...
by Sam Vaknin
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Repeated abuse has long lasting pernicious and traumatic effects such as panic attacks, hypervigilance, sleep disturbances, flashbacks (intrusive memories), suicidal ideation, and psychosomatic symptoms. The victims experience shame, depression, anxiety, embarrassment, guilt, humiliation, abandonment, and an enhanced sense of vulnerability. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase:...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Narcissists have no ego. Ego death means narcissism. Ego functions include: reality testing, impulse control, emotional regulation, judgment, object relations, cognitive processes, defense mechanisms, and a synthetic function. Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3
Topics: ego functions, reality testing, impulse control, emotional regulation, judgment, object relations,...
by Sam Vaknin
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The narcissist rarely admits to a weakness, ignorance, or deficiency. He filters out information to the contrary - a cognitive impairment with serious consequences. Narcissists are likely to unflinchingly make inflated and inane claims about their sexual prowess, wealth, connections, history, or achievements. All this is mighty embarrassing to the narcissist's nearest, dearest, colleagues, friends, neighbours, even on-lookers. The narcissist's tales are so patently absurd that he often catches...
Topics: narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths,...
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Old Testament God malignant narcissist: entitled, vindictive, dysempathic, defiant, malevolent, grandiose (demands to be worshipped) God the Father absent in New Testament but his Son is all the above and, like most other self-styled prophets of religion, psychotic. See vid. Evil is an attribute of God. Satan is God the same way Jekyll and Hide: multiple personality, self-state. Gnostic duality demiurge. If god is everywhere and includes everything then Evil must also be a part of...
Topics: evil, good, right, wrong, healing, enlightenment, narcissist, god, psychosis, nothingness,...
by Sam Vaknin
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Self-declared "empaths" are narcissistic individuals who trumpet their alleged hypersensitivity as a grandiose claim to uniqueness and victimhood. "Empath" is a nonsense label hyped online but with zero clinical significance. Everyone is possessed of empathy - even narcissists and psychopaths ("cold empathy"). Everyone is, therefore, an "empath" Admittedly, there are Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) around: their empathy is so extreme that it renders...
Topics: empath, gaslighting, dissociation, confabulation, dissonance, contradictory, inconsistent, hsp,...
by Sam Vaknin
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Empathy is a self-contained internal set of processes, triggered by the presence and self-reporting of another person. It involves two confabulated self-deceptions: 1. That the internal experience of empathy is actually external (has to do with the other person). This confusion between internal and external objects is called “psychosis”; and 2. That the experience of empathy is altruistic and focused on the other person when in reality it is solipsistic and revolves exclusively around...
Topics: dead mother, theory of mind, mentalizing, empathy, others, mental states, intentions, motivation,...
by Sam Vaknin
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The Borderline’s engulfment or enmeshment anxiety has to do with her internalized bad object: the lifelong introjects that keep informing her how unworthy, unloveable, and inadequate she is. Exposure to messages that countermand the bad object creates dissonance and the aforementioned anxiety. This leads to withdrawal, aggression, and avoidant behaviors. People pleasers, borderlines, and codependents have a constricted life: they subsist only through others and for others, vicariously, by...
Topics: rescuer, triangulation, romantic jealousy, borderline, psychopath, dissociation, dissociative,...
by Sam Vaknin
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Kod on TV Telma: Kosovo is imploding and the reverberations will be felt throughout the region, especially in Macedonia. English-language interview around minute 15:00.
Topics: kosovo, terrorism, nla, uck, kla, macedonia, albania, serbia, usa, west, economy, unemployment,...
by Sam Vaknin
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he erotomaniac stalker believes that he is in love with you. To show his keen interest, he keeps calling you, dropping by, writing e-mails, doing unsolicited errands "on your behalf", talking to your friends, co-workers, and family, and, in general, making himself available at all times. The erotomaniac feels free to make for you legal, financial, and emotional decisions and to commit you without your express consent or even knowledge. (From the book "Malignant Self-love:...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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The narcissist's communication is a cipher, it is coded. Here are two simple rules: 1. The narcissist is never sad - and always mad (at you) and bad; and 2. When the narcissist says "I am bad" (is ostensibly repentant), he means to say "I am afraid" (of the consequences of his actions) Envelope: reasonable, flexible/compromising, socially-acceptable, commonsensical Hidden/occult coded message which triggers (pushes buttons) based on shared past experiences and speech acts...
Topics: Communication, cipher, code, speech, narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic...
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Constructive Anger Communicate your anger honestly, firmly, but not aggressively (never bottle up or internalize your anger, never act passive-aggressively) Describe your state of mind, don’t blame, guilt-trip, or shame Ask for change: new actions or behaviors or speech acts. Offer change in return, if need be. Be assertive, not submissive. Narcissistic rage has two forms: I. Explosive – The narcissist flares up, attacks everyone in his immediate vicinity, causes damage to objects or...
Topics: narcissist, narcissistic rage, anger, fury, wrath, pissed-off, angry, raging, wrathful,...